build: update rules_nodejs and clean up bazel warnings (#30370)

Preserve compatibility with rollup_bundle rule.
Add missing npm dependencies, which are now enforced by the strict_deps plugin in tsc_wrapped

PR Close #30370

packages/compiler-cli/src/ngtsc/shims/test/BUILD.bazel

@@ -11,6 +11,7 @@ ts_library(
     deps = [
         "//packages:types",
         "//packages/compiler-cli/src/ngtsc/shims",
+        "@npm//typescript",
     ],
 )