build: update rules_nodejs and clean up bazel warnings (#30370)

Preserve compatibility with rollup_bundle rule.
Add missing npm dependencies, which are now enforced by the strict_deps plugin in tsc_wrapped

PR Close #30370

packages/core/test/acceptance/BUILD.bazel

@@ -24,6 +24,7 @@ ts_library(
         "//packages/platform-browser/testing",
         "//packages/platform-server",
         "//packages/private/testing",
+        "@npm//rxjs",
         "@npm//zone.js",
     ],
 )