build: update to nodejs rules 0.41.0 (#33996)

This bring is changes to the @nodejs repository required for https://github.com/angular/angular/pull/33927. See release notes for more details: https://github.com/bazelbuild/rules_nodejs/releases/tag/0.41.0.

rules_nodejs is approaching 1.0 and breaking changes for that release are being made more frequently. In this release, the ts_devserver API changed and it no longer injects html script tags into a provided index.html file. The diff on this commit is large as this breaking change affects quite a few tests.

Also note that we don’t update @angular/bazel schematics and integration/bazel as 0.41.0 is not a recommended update for angular users yet due to the breaking changes in ts_devserver & web_package (now named pkg_web). When a suitable plain npm package that is in progress is finished then it will be possible to easily replace the html injection functionality removed from ts_devserver & pkg_web.

PR Close #33996

modules/benchmarks/src/tree/incremental_dom/index.html

@@ -25,5 +25,9 @@
   <div>
     <tree id="root"></tree>
   </div>
+
+  <script src="/npm/node_modules/incremental-dom/dist/incremental-dom.js"></script>
+  <!--default load location for ts_devserver-->
+  <script src="/_/ts_scripts.js"></script>
 </body>
 </html>